A few weeks ago, I came across a video about The Five Love Languages. There are five different types of loves according to Gary Chapman (author and marriage counselor). From the five different love languages, each person has a primary and a secondary love language that allows you to express and experience love.
People tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive it. That is where a lot of the problems that couples have come in. We all expect to be loved the same way we love our partner and that's not usually the way it works. Once you know what you and your partners love languages are, understanding your loved ones wants and needs becomes easier.
What are The Five Love Languages?
1) Words of Affirmation - Expressing Affection through praise, appreciation, or actual spoken affection. These individuals feel that words have more meaning than actions and would rather hear the reasons behind their love rather than any other expression of love.
2) Acts of Service - Actions instead of words are used to show and receive love. These individuals want their partners to notice that lending a helping hand once in a while shows love and care.
3) Receiving Gifts - Gifting is Symbolic of Love & Affection. This does not mean this person is materialistic. They just love receiving a thoughtful and meaningful gift. With these individuals, love may be compared or equated with a physical gift.
4) Quality Time - Expressing affection with undivided and uninterrupted attention. Sometimes spending quality time and being the focus of your partners complete attention, leaves you satisfied and comforted more than words.
5) Physical Touch - With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch. It doesn't just refer to affection in the bedroom. It also refers to everyday physical connections such as holding hands, kissing, a hug or any type of emotional physical contact.
I believe that I have two love languages. My primary love language is Physical Touch and my secondary love language is quality time. I love spending time with Chaz just us two and enjoying our time together. I also love when he randomly gives me a hug or an unexpected random kiss. Even when he just places a hand on my knee it makes me full of emotion and love. Any little physical touch or contact is very important to me.
You should always remember that just because you and your partner favor a specific love language, that does not mean you should stop expressing any of the other love languages. I have more than one love language, and I enjoy some of the things from each language.
What is your love language? Do you have more than one like I do?